Give the ones you love wings to fly

 

Point to Ponder: I believe the children are our future Teach them well and let them lead the way Show them all the beauty they possess inside Give them a sense of pride to make it easier. --- from The Greatest Love of All by Whitney Houston

Story Line: Late last year many of our friends were busy visiting various college campuses with their children who will be graduating soon. Now that the verdicts are in and college selections are made, great preparations are going on for the journey to the new world for children. For parents it is the time of mixed emotions; happy to know their children will enter the next phase of life while they will need to adjust to the life without them; an empty nest.

While we are getting the updates from our friends, one humming bird conducted parallel activity right by our window under the extended roof; she laid eggs, had two cute babies and cared for them until they flew out. My mother and I watched the entire process; me observing several times a day while my mother spending a lot more time. The journey from the birth to an empty nest are captured in the video at the top.

It was fascinating and educational to see how the hummingbird mom selected the location; safe from predators and environmental conditions. (But not good for our recently cleaned window.J).  Even during the gusty winds of 40 miles per hour, the nest and babies did not fall down. The location was hard for bandits like Raven, Blue Jays and Mocking Birds who were constantly scouting for newborns (Spring Feast) from a large pole or nearby trees. But this location would have been too hard for them to get in and easily fly out.

She also made sure to come for feeding only when the bandits were not around. When they were on the pole or trees, she would fly around them and then go inside some far tree to distract them about the location. She fed each baby for almost equal time.

Ten days after birth, the babies started flapping their wings in preparation for the upcoming flight. Reminded me about plane flights where pilots do pre-checks before starting take off. The first one took off on The Tax Day (4/15) and tried his newly acquired flying skills for a few hours. But it seemed that it had hard time catching bugs so returned to the nest to join the sibling for the family lunch-on. Seemed the mother had some words with him/her because after that meal he/she never returned to the nest but was seen catching bugs in flight with the mom. Guess the first time he/she had flown off without proper training. (not listening to parents to be patient)

The second one was a late bloomer. Seems like he/she had filed an extension and waited for two more days to fly off. And fly he/she did. Right in front of the Blue Jay waiting on the pole. Risk Taking, Near Miss or Confidence; Whatever. Mom made sure that the little one knows the danger by flying with him/her that afternoon and also conducted proper training in catching bugs.

For the past two days, my mom and I are dealing with an empty nest. On the positive side, all of them have come by to greet in early morning or late afternoon.

Reflection: There are so many similarities in how different species prepare their young ones for the world they would be living in. Watching the entire process was educational and pure joy. (Even Window cleaning will have pleasant memories.)

Many events of this story are captured in a short video at the top of this reflection.

As many parents are getting ready for dealing with an empty nest, I would end with the following thought: Be Happy-You Did Good.

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Comments

[sujat]

A sweet documentary record of the journey of the baby hummingbirds.

Thank u! It reminds me of the line by Khalifa Gibran.... in essence - "Your children do not belong to you; they only come here through you....."

It is easy to forget that they r minds with individual identities (although this itself is an illusory thing for us all), they come with their own ambitions & passions, and they come with their unique natural characteristics.

To guide them along choices healthy for their emotional growth is necessary, but projecting our ambitions & passions upon them is criminal.

[sujat]

Sorry for the autocorrect taking over.

* Khalil Gibran

[Anand]

To Sujat
Wholeheartedly Agree with your perspective about children.
In fact the additional lines from the lyrics of the song mentioned in point to Ponder states
I found the greatest
Love of all inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

[FR team]

We have had Reflection on your children are not your children. The readers comments are worth reading.
https://fridayreflections.typepad.com/weblog/2011/01/your-children-are-not-your-children-by-kahlil-gibran.html

[Humble Warrior]

What a pleasantry and a wonderful capture.

The circle of life, first taught to me by the classic Disney movie, The Lion King!

[BHSC]

Great story and picture…. Thank you for sharing!

[Reader from Philippines ( posted by FR team)]

Very lovely story... I saw how my mom struggled to cope up being empty nesters especially that my dad passed away already. How to believe in your children and let them be. Now she is happy tending to church duties giving her sense of responsibilities and different kind of achievements.