Friday Reflections

Highly Motivated Employees (The Young and the Restless Part 1)

POINT TO PONDER:  “All children are artists. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” - Pablo Picasso.  Isn’t the same thing true about employees? New employees come with good credentials, enthusiasm, ambition, high hopes and many with a lot of passion. The challenge is how to keep up those qualities once they get melded in/sucked in to the organization’s systems for a few years.

STORY LINE: Originally Published April 17, 2014. Republishing with minor edits.

A few weeks ago, I received one very touching and wonderful email from a supervisor about an employee who was leaving the company. The note mentioned about the significant contributions of this person; many beyond the normal job scope. It also stated the high value that customers, partners and peers had seen in this employee. The person’s “can do” attitude, high energy and enthusiasm had influenced and impressed whoever had interacted with her (me included). It was clear from the note that this person had made a big impact on whatever or whomever she had dealt with. I read the note over and over again until it dawned on me that this person that the supervisor wrote such a nice note about was with the company for only 20 months (out of school). Now that made it even more powerful that in such a short time the person had made such an impact.

In my 39 years career, I too have been fortunate to have coached some employees like the one mentioned above. My experience with such employees is that they are not motivated by money or by positions, but more with constantly new challenges, trust in them to carry on big tasks (not treat them like kids or starters), reinforcing their value to the company and providing occasional guidance. They are self-starters, and as a supervisor/coach one needs to just keep raising the bar. Some will stay and some will move on (nothing personal, just that their reach may be farther than what current environment can offer) but whatever time they spent, they will make a big impact and enlighten and inspire others around them. In the words of Friedrich Nietzsche, The surest way to corrupt such a person is to instruct him/her to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently. Give them freedom, trust and encouraging feedback about their value and create a culture where they will thrive.

REFLECTION: From Pablo Picasso Quote in PTP (applies to any Young* and Restless)
Each second we live is a new and unique moment of the universe, a moment that will never be again. And what do we teach our children? We teach them that two and two make four, and that Paris is the capital of France. When will we also teach them what they are? We should say to each of them: Do you know what you are? You are a marvel. You are unique. In all the years that have passed, there has never been another child like you. Your legs, your arms, your clever fingers, the way you move. You may become a Shakespeare, a Michelangelo, a Beethoven. You have the capacity for anything. Yes, you are a marvel. And when you grow up, can you then harm another who is, like you, a marvel? You must work, we must all work, to make the world worthy of its children.

*young applies to both in age and mentally young.

Readers feedback from the Original Publication included in the comment section

Next Week: Last I heard, we get paid for making things possible...(The Young and the Restless Part 2)

 

 

Never take a person's dignity: it is worth everything to them, and nothing to you

Point to Ponder: “I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.” - Jackie Robinson

Story Line: Once upon a time, a company hired a young fellow who had just graduated from college. He impressed his colleagues with his high energy, unlimited enthusiasm and superb attitude. He kept on delivering great results and rose fast through the ranks. In a few years, his reputation grew and became Go to Guy for many colleagues as well as senior management.

Irony or what but what motivated this person was neither money or promotion but recognition of his work. And he equated recognition with more challenges with more projects. His manager and senior executives liked him and constantly challenged him with difficult assignments.

One day there was reorganization as it happens in companies and a new manager arrived. He had heard about the reputation of this young fellow and wanted to check out first hand. After a few minutes of chat, the new manager asked him "How old are you?" When the fellow mentioned his age, the manager replied "Only 25 and you are already at this level in organization? I had not even reached that level at 36. Don't get any more ideas about Promotion for next few years."

This new manager took pride in his "No Nonsense, Direct" style. He even shared his meeting conversation with his two bosses. Both Bosses looked at each other and knew right then and there that they would loose that young fellow. The very thing that kept that young man highly motivated was undermined: Respect.

Anyway, that young man is the owner of a very successful business and every client he has dealt with seeks him out again and again for his services. His business is growing leaps and bounds. 

Reflection: from Thurgood Marshall speech

Certain people have a way of saying things that shake us at the core. Even when the words do not seem harsh or offensive, the impact is shattering. What we could be experiencing is the intent behind the words. When we intend to do good, we do. When we intend to do harm, it happens. What each of us must come to realize is that our intent always comes through. We cannot sugarcoat the feelings in our heart of hearts. The emotion is the energy that motivates. We cannot ignore what we really want to create. We should be honest and do it the way we feel it. What we owe to ourselves and everyone around is to examine the reasons of our true intent.

The Hero's Journey

POINT TO PONDER: Follow your bliss. - Joseph Campbell

STORY LINE: by Rajiv Shah

We want to revisit one of our favorite stories, Jonathan Livingston Seagull. On first glance, Jonathan Livingston Seagull is a story about marching to the beat of your own drum, following dreams, pursuing your passion in the face of adversity and forgiving others when they condemn you for doing so. It incorporates all these elements, but I realized upon my viewing of the entire film that JLS follows the classic Hero's Journey myth structure.

The Hero's Journey was popularized by Joseph Campbell who was a writer and mythologist. Campbell found that many classic stories follow a pattern (including Jonathan Livingston Seagull) and an extremely abridged explanation is outlined here that we can apply to our own lives:

The Call to Adventure - This is where the main character is at a point in their life where they are at the brink of change. Either the character can be seeking the change or the call to adventure comes from an unexpected source (death of a loved one, fired from a job, life is in danger.etc). In JLS this step is represented in Jonathan's need to fly faster and higher than any seagull before. In your own life is there something that you seek? A higher sense of fulfillment whether personal or professional, a yearning to explore, or a need to challenge? Whatever that thing is, that is your calling.
Refusal of the Call - The main character avoids the call due to doubt, familial obligations, expectations (societal, personal, or familial), or fear of the unknown. In JLS (around the 20 minute mark) Jonathan has flown higher than he ever has before but crash lands into the ocean. Injured and alone he floats on a wooden crate - for the first time doubting his calling, his belief in himself. He thinks, "I've got to live with what I am. I promise this day that I will be a seagull like every other seagull." Sound familiar? I don't think I need to illustrate how this applies to our own lives as many of us get stuck in this phase of the hero's journey, doubting our passion and ability.

Crossing of the Threshold/Road of Trials - The point where the main character reenters their journey is sometimes with encouragement from another and sometimes from an internal calling growing stronger within them. At this point there is no turning back, the main character ventures further into the unknown, past fear and doubt. The character will undergo a transformation from the experience (usually tough) and emerge with a new understanding and/or a new self. In JLS as is true in other works, this is can be the point of death though it is not always the case. In our own lives, and since you are reading this - you are not dead yet (at least I hope not...) - it can be a metamorphosis from your old way of thinking/self usually into a new one.
Apotheosis/The Ultimate Boon - The achievement of the goal. Moving to divine knowledge, transendence and attainment of the calling. In JLS this is the point when Jonathan has learned to fly highest, fastest, and is even able to transend his physical body. For us, well... I wouldn't know what this looks like and it would be foolish for me to try to teach anyone this as I'm searching myself. But I think it's in the search for this that we find peace and bliss, however brief or lasting. Some may find this in family, some in career achievements, and some might find it in jumping from one thing/place to the next. But when we find it I hope we take the next step:

Master of Two Worlds/Freedom to Live - With this new knowledge, bliss, and transcendence the main character returns to his place of origin in order to share those experiences with others and the world at large. This is so that others might find their own path and their own peace. In JLS this is done when Jonathan returns to the flock seeking to teach them that they can fly as high and fast as they dream. For us, it is the need to teach, to pass on what we've experienced in order to help another on their path. Paying it forward.

REFLECTION

The Hero's Journey is one that all of us have within us. It reflects the nature of our search for meaning. We all find it in different places but the calling is always there. Sometimes the fears and doubts get so loud that we don't take the journey and find what we are truly capable of. It's easy to given in and stop searching, deciding that what we seek can't exist.

This need, the quest for meaning, is not only reflected in stories like Jonathan Livingston Seagull, but is ingrained in spiritual texts such as the Bible and the story of the Buddha. It permeates most TV shows and movies, from Lost to Batman. It can even be found in the cycle of birth. It is a mythology that is interwoven into the very fabric of our existence - in the little place inside of each and everyone of us that dares to answer the call and seek our greatest potential.

Come to the edge, he said.

They said: We are afraid.

Come to the edge, he said.

They came.

He pushed them and they flew.

~ Guillaume Apollinaire

Reader's feedback from the original publication on July 26, 2012 is included in Comments section.

 

 

Enjoy The Company of Your Children

Point to Ponder: And those human connections --- with spouses, with children, with friends -- are the most important investments you will ever make. Barbara Bush 

Story Line: A beautiful post from one mother to another mother*…(author unknown)

There were days when My home used to be filled with laughter, arguments, fights, jokes and loads of mischief. Pens and books all over, and clothes messing the rooms, thrown on the beds. I used to shout at them to tidy up their mess.

In the morning : One will wake up and say :"Mama I can't find a certain book. And the other will say : *I can't find my perfume,*

And one will say : *Mama where's my homework?*

And another : *Mama I forgot to complete my homework.*

Everyone used to ask about their lost possessions. And I will say, *but take care of your stuff, be responsible, you have to grow up.*

And today I stand at the doorway of the room. The beds are empty. All the cupboards have only a few pieces of clothes in them. And what remains is the smell of perfume that lingers in the air.

Everyone had a special smell. So I take in the smell of their perfume for maybe it will fill the empty ache in my heart.

All I have now is the memory of their laughs and their mischief and their warm hugs.

Today my house is clean and organized and everything is in its place, and it is calm and peaceful. But it is like a desert with no life in it. Do not become angry with your kids about the mess.

Every time they come to visit and they spend time with us, when they are ready to leave. They pull their bags and it is as if they tug my heart along with it.

They close the door behind them and then I stand still and think of the many times I shouted them to close the doors.

Here I am today, closing my own doors. Nobody opens it besides me. Each one gone to a different city or a different country. All left to find their own path in life.

They have grown up and I wished that they could stay with me forever.

Oh! God..... Take care of them & all other children wherever they may be, for You are their guide and protector and always keep them happy.

If your children are still in the stage that you need to talk and talk before they could get things done in the house, please, cherish and endure it with joy, don't nag, they will soon leave your home for you, remember they were not there at the beginning of your marriage. Now that they are around, make them happy and feel happy yourself.

Reflection: From Barbara Bush's Commencement Address at Wellesley College. June 1990

Cherish your human connections: your relationships with family and friends. For several years, you've had impressed upon you the importance to your career of dedication and hard work. And, of course, that's true. But as important as your obligations as a doctor, a lawyer, a business leader will be, you are a human being first. And those human connections --- with spouses, with children, with friends -- are the most important investments you will ever make. At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a child, a friend, or a parent. - Barbara Bush Commencement Address at Wellesley College. June 1990

*Original Author Unknown. Thanks to our reader Malav for sending this article.