One fine day in early part of my career, during a meeting, my boss told me, “You are very defensive.” And I spent the next 20 minutes explaining to him why I was not defensive and told him that his assessment was erroneous. He smiled and said, “I rest my case.”
After gaining wisdom through the years, my grey hair being a living proof of that, I still do not claim that I take all feedback well when I first hear it and neither do I claim that I have applied it all. But once I get in reflective mood, most of it makes sense - and whatever I took seriously and applied has helped me learn and get better. Without dwelling in details about my personal feedback, I like to share a few general lessons taught by The Masters.
- Your successful path will block your vision to the future. - Joel A. Barker
- Based on your existing paradigms, you see best what you want to see.
- You cannot win today’s game on yesterday’s press clippings.
- When a paradigm, company or organization direction shifts everything goes back to Zero - Joel A. Barker (apology for a little edit to the original quote)
- If you don't get feedback from your performers and your audience, you're going to be working in a vacuum - Peter Maxwell Davies
- When angry, count 10 before you speak; If very angry, then count 100 - Thomas Jefferson
- Everybody needs feedback, and it's a heck of a lot cheaper than paying a trainer - Doug Lowenstein
- “Negative feedback is better that none. I would rather have a man hate me than overlook me. As long as he hates me I make a difference” - Hugh Prather
- "What you did yesterday is history. What you promise for tomorrow is mystery. What you can deliver today is reality."
- “Champions know that success is inevitable; that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. They know that the best way to forecast the future is to create it” - Michael Gelb
Reflection: Feedback is a Gift.
*Don’t let pride overcome you. It will cost you dearly. Thomas Jefferson